One Week Left..

So here I am, sitting in my chair at my makeshift desk looking at my blogger countdown, realizing I only have one week left to be single. That's it. After that, I'll be married FOREVER. Which isn't a bad thing, it's just a really important, life-changing thing.
I wonder if this whole thing has really sunk in. I don't think it has. I mean, I think about it all the time, but I don't think it will really hit me until after. Which makes me wonder if I know what I'm getting myself into. I guess I can't really know since I've never done this before.
Oh gosh. It's scary to think that seven-ish nights from now my whole life will be different. DIFFERENT.
Get it into your head girl! I keep repeating that in my head to no avail. I just can't wrap my head around this. I think a huge reason is that I have been away from my betrothed and place where everything happened for too long. It all feels like a dream. None of this is really happening. I made it all up. I'm not really getting married. I'm not really in a relationship at all.
Oh but this is real! You had better figure that out fast, you dope! I am going to wake up, eat, sleep, live, and do everything with this person for the rest of my life. I am going to have to keep up a house/apartment, work, clean, fix dinner (yikes!), and do anything else necessary in a marriage. Oh my goodness. This isn't really happening.
Focus! Remember why you're doing this! Oh yeah. I absolutely love this guy. He adores me and treats me as his queen. He is the perfect next chpater in my "fairy tale". He makes everything make sense. He fills the gaps and holes that were in my life. He is my destiny. I know this is what I need to do. I still feel that feeling of peace when I wonder if this is the right choice.
Yes, being single is wonderful. I have only one last week to enjoy it. But my life is growing, and the only way to reach my full potiential is to take this step. I'm not scared. Why? I have prepared myself my whole life to take this next step. I have done everything I could to get ready mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. And I have a few really wonderful people to hold my hands the whole way through. Thank you Mom, thank you Nate, but most of all, thank you God.

Boy Advice

So lately everyone has been asking me how I did it. How I found a guy, and I am about to tie the knot. It baffles me in a lot of ways, but they want advice. They need a conformation that they will not be single forever (I can guarantee these wonderful girls won't be!). I am not an expert, and my advice won't apply in every case, but here's what I have to give.

• Stop looking, stop wishing, stop waiting, but DON'T LOSE HOPE. They always appear after you "give up". I figure it's because when we're on the prowl, we try too hard and are too stressed, and boys sense it. They stay away.
• Relax. This applies to the previous bullet. Be coy. When they see you're not fighting life, they are open to your openness.
• Be confident. Fake confidence until you really have it. This is crucial. Confidence ALWAYS attracts. And I don't mean cockiness or prudence. When guys see that you are confident in who you are, and happy to be that way, they are attracted and intruigued.
• Be yourself. Don't act like someone you aren't. It will be hard to keep up the act, and if you have someone, they will be attracted to something you don't really have in common. Plus, he WILL find out it's not really part of your personality. And that's bad news all around.
• Highlight and show off the things you like most about yourself or are most confident in. This is not to say that if you like your body you should dress scantily. This means that you should dress nicely in something that flatters you, but is modest. If you love to do service, involve yourself in activities where you can do service activities, and boys are involved. He will see your genuine interest, and you two will already have something in common. After all, he signed up/participated in the same activity!
• Respect yourself and show it. No guy will respect you if you don't respect yourself and make it clear to him.
• Smile and really be happy. Happiness is contagious.
• Find things to better yourself, and enhance the qualities you want to have ready when the right guy finds you. This will take up that extra time while you're (NOT) waiting, and you will become a more rounded, confident, and skilled person. Learn how to cook, dance, sew, or study. Whatever interests YOU.
• Don't give everything away on the first date. Make him work to get to know you. Keep the mystery. Entice him to want to get to know you better. Keep him hanging with just enough that he will want to keep coming back. My guy still has things to learn about me, and always will.
• Have a genuine interest in his life and interests, and show it often, If you are bad at remembering, the second you get home, write down everything you remember about what he said he liked. Memorize them, get to know a little more about it if you don't already. When you see him again, bring it up. Listen, show interest. Learn more about him.
• Get to know his friends/roommates. Watch how he interacts with them, and notice who he closest with. This will help you see how he bonds with others, and can bond with you. When you are kind to his friends, he will see you are not closed off, his friends will notice that too. They will also be more open to the relationship and more likely to approve of it.

That's all I've got for now! I hope this helps! Good luck!