Boy Advice

So lately everyone has been asking me how I did it. How I found a guy, and I am about to tie the knot. It baffles me in a lot of ways, but they want advice. They need a conformation that they will not be single forever (I can guarantee these wonderful girls won't be!). I am not an expert, and my advice won't apply in every case, but here's what I have to give.

• Stop looking, stop wishing, stop waiting, but DON'T LOSE HOPE. They always appear after you "give up". I figure it's because when we're on the prowl, we try too hard and are too stressed, and boys sense it. They stay away.
• Relax. This applies to the previous bullet. Be coy. When they see you're not fighting life, they are open to your openness.
• Be confident. Fake confidence until you really have it. This is crucial. Confidence ALWAYS attracts. And I don't mean cockiness or prudence. When guys see that you are confident in who you are, and happy to be that way, they are attracted and intruigued.
• Be yourself. Don't act like someone you aren't. It will be hard to keep up the act, and if you have someone, they will be attracted to something you don't really have in common. Plus, he WILL find out it's not really part of your personality. And that's bad news all around.
• Highlight and show off the things you like most about yourself or are most confident in. This is not to say that if you like your body you should dress scantily. This means that you should dress nicely in something that flatters you, but is modest. If you love to do service, involve yourself in activities where you can do service activities, and boys are involved. He will see your genuine interest, and you two will already have something in common. After all, he signed up/participated in the same activity!
• Respect yourself and show it. No guy will respect you if you don't respect yourself and make it clear to him.
• Smile and really be happy. Happiness is contagious.
• Find things to better yourself, and enhance the qualities you want to have ready when the right guy finds you. This will take up that extra time while you're (NOT) waiting, and you will become a more rounded, confident, and skilled person. Learn how to cook, dance, sew, or study. Whatever interests YOU.
• Don't give everything away on the first date. Make him work to get to know you. Keep the mystery. Entice him to want to get to know you better. Keep him hanging with just enough that he will want to keep coming back. My guy still has things to learn about me, and always will.
• Have a genuine interest in his life and interests, and show it often, If you are bad at remembering, the second you get home, write down everything you remember about what he said he liked. Memorize them, get to know a little more about it if you don't already. When you see him again, bring it up. Listen, show interest. Learn more about him.
• Get to know his friends/roommates. Watch how he interacts with them, and notice who he closest with. This will help you see how he bonds with others, and can bond with you. When you are kind to his friends, he will see you are not closed off, his friends will notice that too. They will also be more open to the relationship and more likely to approve of it.

That's all I've got for now! I hope this helps! Good luck!